BlackMan Time

Some animals have a great way to mark their territory: they mainly urinate on the area they consider to be theirs! Human beings too protect their patch in similar, if less dramatic, ways.

In the case of relationships a woman (or man for that matter) will tell other people someone belongs to her/him by wrapping her/his arms around their alleged loved ones and hope that any other interested parties get the message.

This is sometimes reinforced by being seen with that person in a favourable light, even spreading rumours in the right places hoping that this will deter others from poaching their partners.

I’ve seen this dynamic at work on me while having lunch with a particular female colleague who just happens to already have a boyfriend. Yet she went around telling key people that she was the one chasing me!

The effect of this was to cause people to talk about us as if we were an item when in actual fact we were not. I guess she wouldn’t do this if she had no interest in me. But it sure weakened my case with any prospective single women who might have been interested in me!

Weird, huh?